“If you will change, everything will change for you. Don’t wait for things to change. Change doesn’t start out there, change starts within …all change starts with you “ Quote by Jim Rohns mentor
Our mental health plays a major role in how we think, feel and act. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to monitor your emotions and the emotions of others and distinguish between emotions, and use emotional information to guide your thinking, behavior and influence on others.
It allows us to connect with others, understand ourselves better, and live a more authentic, healthy, and happy life.
We are born hardwired for connection, we deserve to understand ourselves on a fundamental level, and when we do that we are inherently impacting those around us. Here are the five elements of Emotional Intelligence we use to enhance our understanding:
- Self awareness – ability to recognize and understand own emotions
- Self regulation – ability to express, regulate and manage own emotions (Self Control)
- Motivation – internal motivation – motivated for personal reasons
- Empathy – sensing others’ feelings and perspective
- Social Skills – skills that allow us to interact with others
Through the journey of growing and enhancing your life you can heighten your emotional intelligence. People who are highly emotionally intelligent aren’t afraid of change they understand it’s in the flow of life, they are committed to quality but also acknowledge that perfection is impossible and they excute curiosity, gratitude, happiness and are open minded.
As humans we are born highly emotional and social creatures but due to paradigms we can loose that, it’s important to build this mental muscle because being emotionally intelligent will help you connect with others, boost your performance at work, improve your communication skills, become more resilient, and more. It turns out that having a high level of EI can make you successful in just about every aspect of your life.
Tools to enhance your EI
Mindfulness is a tool that enhances all areas of your life, and is extremely important when it comes to EI. Learning to become aware and stay in the present moment will help you along your journey,
Some tools or reframes can include any of the following :
- Be the observer of how you react to others – being open and accepting of others perceptions
- Self audit – identifying weaknesses and seeing an honest picture of self
- Notice how you react in stressful situations and work on responding and staying cool and calm
- Take responsibility for your own actions
“ Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change” Jim Rohn quote